Monday, September 3, 2012

Divorce1


CASE-2
This is the story of a very beautiful woman who approached the court for her divorce proceedings. A young girl of hardly 23 years old. She had two kids, a boy and a girl, four and three years old respectively. Let me confess that I was rather surprised to see her and on preparing her case I was feeling pain in my heart. She was not only beautiful but had manners and quite decent to talk. She was looking so dejected and hurt. My own feelings were that such girls are here in this world to be happy and to receive and enjoy all the blessings of Allah. A girl whose pinkish color was such as if she is made of milk with added honey in it. In Urdu it is said and I quote here translated, “she was such that mere touching her will make her dirty”. Very big almond color deep eyes. O Allah what has fallen on her. Her name was Fatima.
            Well, she was married to an engineer, who was well set and established. At the time of her marriage she was 18 years old and the engineer was 30 years of age. His name was Zulqarnain.
            On her arranged marriage, she had lots of romantic and emotional desires. When she reached her new home she was very excited with lots of dreams in her eyes. But alas! What she got.
The very first briefing and the treatment she got from her husband, Mr. Zulqarnain, was quite humiliating and thus her marriage ultimately culminated towards the divorce proceedings. The proceedings, which I believe, should have been initiated on the very next day of her married life. She in the hope of a change, waited five long years and had two children but to no veil. Mr. Zulqarnain remained the same without any changes in his behavior, which was beyond any set norms of life.
            On the very first night Mr. Zulqarnain briefed his wife that she will not form part of his life and will live in his house in a separate room. Mr, Zulqarnain has installed a call bell in her room, whose push button was beside Mr, Zulqarnain’s bed and whenever he desired her, he would ring the bell and Miss Fatima was to appear in his room and submit herself to him. Other than that she was not allowed to be seen with him and was not allowed even to have food with him. In Mr. Zulqarnain’s Novel beliefs, woman was only for sex, reproduction and domestic use. He was member of such families who do not allow their woman to eat earlier than all the male members have taken their food and also the woman folk are not to sit on any raised platform, may it be Bed, Sofa, Chair etc. It is only the prerogative of the men only. Even their mother, may they be very old, will have to sit on the ground besides their son or even grandson while he is sitting on the bed or chair.
            This was quite humiliating. I still don’t understand what made her take that humiliation that longer. Out of curiosity, I asked her. And she said that she wanted to make her marriage a success and kept praying and waiting that her love will change Mr, Zulqarnain. Moreover, she also had a traditional pressure on her of her parents and brothers to adjust and to carry on.

            The Court decided in favour of Ms. Fatima and granted her Divorce.
            Allah saves all girls from such humiliating behavior.

Posted by Zaffar Iqbal Durrani

4 comments:

Unknown said...

superb and touching ....

Zaffariqbal Durrani said...

Thank you. I know a sensitive person like you can always understand and feel the real pain.
Thank you

Unknown said...

There's more to this ...this is sheer male dominance and as long as men think that the women should be treated like servants men will never discover true value of woman. Up to this day such men live among us and unless women stand up against this mistreating s women will never be in peace .. ..Treat women with love and respect and any man will be over whelmed by the love she gives in return .

Zaffariqbal Durrani said...

Very True Sajini. A wife said and I quote "“He changes, I change, the environment changes, everything changes; Having forgiveness and true love, and observing these changes, that can be, big or little, but always happen,we must face them with the love that exists in each one of us. If the two of us love and forgive each other, the changes will only be “experiences or circumstances” that enrich us and give us strength. Otherwise we would only be “living together.”" Unquote. For some, divorce is the only solution;(…in reality it is the easiest…)
To truly love, is difficult,It is to forgive unconditionally,to live,
To take the “experiences or circumstances” as they are,Facing them together and being happy with conviction. BEING HAPPY is an attitude about life and each one of us must decide! BEING HAPPY,depends on you!